Outing

I'm not out to my extended family as trans or pansexual, and while some trans people would think that isn't a big deal, my extended family plays a large roll in my life. While I don't like them sometimes, they're a big part of my life.

I think I took the first steps to coming out to them, or at least some of them. I was seeing them on the weekend for my cousin's birthday, and another cousin of mine (who is 16) had a party the night before. Her mum was talking about a guy at the party who kissed other guys there, and I laughed because of the huge deal she made out of it. I can't understate how shocked she was about it, and would not drop it. After I laughed, she asked me if my friends do it and I said "Yeah I didn't think it was that rare" still giggling.

Then she said "have you?" And I said I had, then there was silence for a bit, and she asked why?

I just said cos I was drunk. But see, here's the thing, I seriously don't understand what the big deal is. Why can't a guy kiss other guys? Why can't a girl kiss another girl?

It's coming up on my birthday, and I don't think I could handle another year of cards addressed to my old name. Maybe it's time?