Personality

I was talking to my friend tonight, he is also trans. He runs a trans youth group and does a very good job of it. We were talking about how to improve the group, and that lead on to talking about transsexualism on a level that I haven't touched on with most people.

I asked him a question, but before I say what it was I need to put it into context to understand the weight behind it.

If you're trans, it's so easy for it to consume your life. When you're starting out, it's all you think about. You just wonder, how will I make it? Even if you're aware of it this possibility, it's still possible to let it devour you. When you're a bit further along, you wonder about things to make you pass more. Even later, there's The Op to think about, having a relationship, work... Literally everything in life is centred around gender, that's why it's so easy for people to fall down this trap.

It's hard to get past that thought pattern once you've been there for so long. So you stay there. Ultimately, it's easy to become one of those trans people who can only talk about being trans, like they have no other personality trait. I've met loads of people like this, which is one reason I decided to get out of the community for a while. I've made a conscious effort to not end up like that, and so far so good.

Now, the question is what someone asked me, after saying what I just said above, and told me to keep it in the back of my mind:

What will you do after you transition?