How do you spot a douchebag who's masquerading as a Dominant?
Maybe I'm being paranoid, but it's reminding me that I just don't know what to look for in terms of warning signs or good points. I could be talking to a sociopath, or worse, someone vanilla. What if he only has interest in me because I'm trans? Or because I'm easy? Or because I don't have much experience and can exploit that?
On the flip side, assuming he is genuine and good and not crazy or vanilla and all that, what if I bore him? What if I'm too damaged, or inexperienced, or scared?
The scary end to this is that I just don't know. In this case, he's interchangeable with anyone who would be interested in me. In my head, the idea of submitting under another person is... terrifying, and I have to keep reminding myself why I want this. It's the ambiguity of it. If I imagine submitting to someone, then of course it's scary. But if I imagine submitting to someone who I like, who I understand, who is understanding, it removes a lot of the fear. If there were no fear, I wouldn't be taking it seriously, and I wouldn't be thinking about it, right?
How do you spot a scared little girl who's masquerading as a submissive?
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