A new approach

Lately, my interest in BDSM has shifted. Oh, I still find certain things extremely arousing, and my fetish list still has everything on it. I still (mostly) identify as submissive. So what has changed?

I used to cruise K&P for eyecandy, and maybe ideas for things to try, and that was pretty much all I saw for a long time.

My attention has since shifted to the writing people churn out. I think this is because of my desire (need) to learn as much as I can about a subject I enjoy. There are interesting threads in the groups sometimes, but most of the time it's just an endless barrage of greetings and basic questions that are either irrelevent to me, or I know the answer to already (and considering earlier this year I felt like I was drowning while figuring some of this stuff out, that's a nice yardstick).

This is an interesting shift. But lately my interest in the writing that pops up in K&P has been fading, I think because it seems to loop it's messages. For every "this is my intimate and well written history on this subject" there are a dozen "10 dos and do nots of a scene" or "how to train your submissive" or something like that. Those last things are cool, but they seem to pop up in different skins a lot of the time.

Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I don't know enough to be able to distinguish the subtle differences between seemingly identical ideas from two different people. But even if I'm right, it still has the same result: I need to learn more.

One frustrating thing about K&P is that it's temporary. No matter how life changingly spectacular something is, it will get moved down the line to make room for new eyecandy. I need to add to my library.